𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑭𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒐𝒎 𝑭𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝑩𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇
I recently completed the pilot episode for the adaptation of my book, and I’m quite pleased with the outcome. Throughout the process, I kept emphasizing to the producer my desire for the story to remain authentic and relatable. She challenged me at times, pointing out how things are typically done in the industry when books are adapted into films. I acknowledged those norms but explained that my goal isn’t just to release a film for the sake of having my name attached to it—I want to convey a message that leaves a meaningful impact on viewers.
After thoughtful discussions, she understood my vision, and we reached a happy medium. As we developed the story, it made me reflect even further on my expectations. I want people to watch the film and see themselves in at least one of the characters or situations. With the drama woven throughout the plot, it has the potential to connect with a broad audience.
While I’m committed to seeing my book adapted into a film, I’m not willing to compromise the core messages I want to convey. If a deal doesn't align with my vision and true purpose, I’d rather walk away than sacrifice the integrity of my story.
What I love about my book “Dismantled Hearts” (shameless plug) is how the characters had no shame in who they were, even if it wasn’t in the best light. Eventually, things came full circle, and some heart changes were made. That’s what authenticity is—being yourself and coming to terms with both the good and the bad, allowing growth and change to happen naturally. It’s about embracing the journey, flaws and all, evolving into the best version of yourself, and not being ashamed to share with others how you got there, knowing your story could inspire someone else along the way.
Being authentic and real is all I know—it’s at the core of who I am. Over time, I’ve realized how these values shape every aspect of my life, from work and relationships to business decisions, writing, and personal growth. While I’m intentional about who I share my personal life with, I’m willing to uplift, motivate, and support others when I can, especially when they’re facing challenges I’ve overcome (by the grace of God). Authenticity allows me to connect with others and guide them—because I hold the blueprint for overcoming some tough battles, I once thought I wouldn’t survive. I’ve experienced heartbreaking moments, yet I’m unashamed to share how I came out on the other side without a trace of smoke. I’ve realized that authenticity is what makes the world go round—it’s what people need and, deep down, what people truly want.
Not too long ago, I watched a YouTube video where an influencer tearfully admitted she needed to rebrand her page because she had lost touch with her true self. She confessed to creating content she didn’t enjoy, chasing views and viral status. After gaining a large following, she realized these weren’t the people she truly wanted to attract. When you lead with authenticity, there’s no need for rebranding—being genuine means you don’t have to change or pretend to be something you’re not. What you see is what you get.
There’s immense confidence and freedom in being yourself. I don’t scroll through social media wishing to be someone else or envying another person’s life. I’m not impressed by money, status, or superficial things. I’m content with what God has planned for me and make it a point not to get ahead of His timing. Most days, I feel like I have it all together—but other days, I’m a mess. I’m often optimistic and hopeful, yet I also have moments of anxiety. I spend much of my time encouraging others, but there are times when I struggle to encourage myself. This is life, and I never want to pretend that I have it all together all the time. If we’re honest, this is who we all are—and that’s okay. We need God every day, in every moment, as He sustains us through this journey called life.
In a world where social media pressures people to maintain a perfect facade while silently struggling behind closed doors, authenticity seems to be slipping away. Many end up idolizing unrealistic images, comparing their lives to false ideals and spiraling into feelings of inadequacy. They begin to believe their struggles make them unworthy or that their lives are somehow out of order. This growing lack of authenticity on and offline is a serious issue, and it’s time for a real change.
Some positive effects of authenticity that I found helpful in my journey include:
Enhanced Creativity: Embracing authenticity has unlocked my creativity, allowing me to express unique ideas and perspectives without fear of judgment, even when I go against the norm.
Freedom from External Validation: I don’t worry about what others think or whether I’m accepted. I don't alter or hide parts of myself to fit in.
Courage to Take Risks: I take more risks—whether sharing unpopular opinions or being vulnerable—knowing that criticism and openness are part of growth.
Stronger Self-Confidence: I’ve developed unshakable confidence. The thought of not being good enough or worrying about being misunderstood is something I don’t worry about.
Alignment with Personal Values: I align my actions, words, and decisions with my core beliefs, bringing me peace and fulfillment.
Healthy Boundaries: I’m building deeper connections with people who appreciate me for who I truly am, while also setting boundaries protecting my well-being and limiting time with those who pressure me to conform.
Positive Influence on Others: I show up as my true self, and unconsciously inspire others to do the same, promoting honesty and openness.
Emotional Resilience: Life’s challenges no longer overwhelm me because I know who I am and trust in my ability to overcome setbacks. This self-assurance has significantly reduced my anxiety.
Increased Self-Esteem: My sense of self-worth is at an all-time high. I accept my imperfections, which others can’t use against me while celebrating my strengths.
Openness to Growth: I’ve realized that being authentic doesn’t mean staying the same—it’s about evolving while staying rooted in what matters most.
Accountability: When I make mistakes, I own them. I learn from my challenges rather than covering them up or blaming others.
FINAL THOUGHTS:
Living authentically has allowed me to align with my true purpose and passions, creating a more meaningful and purpose-driven life. As I continue to explore who God created me to be, my truest self comes to the forefront more and more—and that’s exactly what I want. Through every challenge I face, I’ve found that perseverance isn’t just about getting through tough times; it’s about using those experiences to serve a higher purpose. I don’t seek recognition for it, and perhaps that’s the beauty of living authentically—it leads to humility, keeping me grounded and aligned with God’s will for my life.
I hope my journey will one day encourage you to step into your own authenticity. When you embrace who you truly are, you unlock the freedom to live with intention, passion, and purpose. The world doesn’t need another perfect facade—it needs you, just as you are. By being true to yourself, you not only find fulfillment but also inspire others to do the same. Authenticity is a gift, both to yourself and those around you, and it's through that gift that you can quietly but powerfully influence the world.
Until next time!
- Authoress J. Henry, XOXO
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